They dress the wound of my people, as though it were not serious. "Peace, peace," they say, when there is no peace.
- Jeremiah 8:11
Tenderhearted people will go to unbelievable lengths to avoid any kind of turmoil in a relationship. If there's a little tension in the marriage and one partner asks the other, "What's wrong?" the tender one will answer, "Nothing." What he or she is really saying is this: "Something's wrong, but I don't want to make a scene." In choosing peacekeeping over truth telling, these people think they are being noble, but in reality, they are making a bad choice. Whatever caused the tension will come back. The peace will get harder and harder to keep. A spirit of disappointment will start to flow through the peacekeeper's veins, leading first to anger, then to bitterness and finally to hatred. Relationships can die while everything looks peaceful on the surface!
Peace at any price is a form of deception. When you know you need to tell the truth, the evil on whispers in your ear, "Don't do it. He won't listen. She won't take it. I will only make things worse." If you believe those lies, you will probably kill your relationship sooner or later. Tell the truth!
(Excerpts from: Courageous Faith Through the Year by Bill Hybels)